the laziness in life

I truly probably should be doing something else besides working on this blog, but I haven't blogged in a long time and I've been doing a lot of thinking today about one particular thing.  Laziness.  People get lazy, we get tired of working our butts off day in and day out. Things get old like, cooking, cleaning, working, laundry, grocery shopping, and paying bills.  We pay so much attention to those things that there will always be one thing that gets our attention last.....our relationships.

I'm talking about ALL relationships, family and significant others.  This has been on my mind all day because I've gotten lazy in my relationship.  David and I have jobs that require a lot of attention, extra hours, and sometimes all of our time. When we get home or are at home we have to spend all of our time trying to see family or cooking, cleaning, and getting all the "responsible" things done. One of the things suffering is our affection and communication. It sucks and has put a distance there, but not something that we can't fix.

I get busy with life things and David will hurt my feelings, tick me off, or not do what I need at the moment and instead of me talking it out calmly, I just insist on letting it go because i don't have time to deal with it.  It's a hard thing for me to communicate how I feel or think and it's hard for me to understand that when david has a complaint that its not a personal attack on me.

I just want to be perfect for him.  I want him to think everything I do is great.  (even if it's not I can fake it..LOL)

So the result of life being busy and neither of us dedicating time to listening or actually HEARING what the other person wants has resulted in a lot of hurt feelings, a lot of disappointments, and grudges.

So, in the midst of realizing this and wondering what to do and if anything can be done...I go wedding dress shopping.  THEN, I realized when I put on all of those dresses the question I was asking myself was: is David going to love this, Will David think I'm gorgeous, and is this what he pictures me in?   So as I chose THE dress last night and was twirling and dancing; the only thing on my mind is I hope I blow his mind away.  BUT....then it hit me, why am I only concerned on blowing his mind away that one day?  why do I only want him to be appreciative on holidays and our wedding day.  I should try everyday to blow his mind away.

Little things on a daily basis mean more to me than big things on an occassional basis.  I'm an easy girl to please. I enjoy simple things in life and all it requires is time.  That is all we need is time, David and I rarely make that happen.  One of our biggest faults is that we talk about what we are going ot do to make time for each other and what litle things each other likes.  We do really good the next couple of weeks of doing it but then we fall into the same routine of busy and just keep going on; not noticing that the little things once again are getting left out.

So...My lesson of my own blog is to make time for the little things. Take the extra breath before you speak because if it's not nice, helpful, and neccessary to break the silence, than it probably doesn't need to be said.

couple of quotes to keep in mind:

 "When A Man Is Trying To Win The Heart Of A Woman,He Studies Her.He Learns Her Likes,Dislikes,Habits And Hobbies.But After He Wins Her Heart And Marries Her,He Often Stops Learning About Her.If The Amount He Studied Her Before Marriage Was Equal To A High School Degree,He Should Continue To Learn About Her Until He Gains A College Degree,A Master's Degree And Ultimately A Doctorate Degree.It Is A Lifelong Journey That Draws His Heart Ever Closer To Hers"


“Speak when you are angry – and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.”
~ Dr. Laurence J. Peter

When you are a true listener, you will hear what is not said.”